Have you seen this? There are so many of our stories under this hashtag that it caught my attention. I want to add some of my own personal ones. I invite you to do the same, even if your he is a she. I want to share some of mine so I can remember that he had the problem and it wasn’t me. I need to remind myself I’m happy to be not living in that emotional abuse anymore.
#MaybeHeDoesntHitYou but he yells at you so loud and puts you down and then laughs and records you when you cry.
#MaybeHeDoesntHitYou but he tells you your son misbehaves because you’re a bad parent.
#MaybeHeDoesntHitYou but he tells you he doesn’t love you anymore and honestly the kids drive him crazy and he can’t be around them long, only later to say he never said anything like that. That you were crazy.
#MaybeHeDoesntHitYou but he takes your receipt from grocery shopping to circle and show you the mistakes you made and how much money you waste.
#MaybeHeDoesntHitYou but he tells you every day that he pays for everything so it’s all his and that you could go find a cheap daycare to watch the kids while you go back to fucking work.
#MaybeHeDoesntHitYou but he skips dinner every night to go to strip clubs and cheat on you and when you confront him he says, “I was at work you psycho bitch. Someone has to pay for everything around here.”
#MaybeHeDoesntHitYou but he ignores your calls when you’re 9 months pregnant and when you ask him not to do it again, he says he can’t always be reached and you can just call 911, women do it everyday.
#MaybeHeDoesntHitYou but when your father dies he refuses to take your children home with him, but instead rolls his eyes and tells you to deal with it.
#MaybeHeDoesntHitYou but he raises his fist at you and threatens to.
#MaybeHeDoesntHitYou but he tells you that now he sees why stupid bitches get hit, when you ask him who he’s texting.
#MaybeHeDoesntHitYou But he drives seperately to the beach so he can come late and leave early and not have to deal with packing, unpacking, and dealing with the kids in the car.
#MaybeHeDoesntHitYou but he tells other women that you’re the biggest bitch and that took his children from him, to get their sympathy and to get laid. He really doesn’t want time with the kids.
#MaybeHeDoesntHitYou but he locks his phone, car, and computer and doesn’t share his password because it none of your business.
#MaybeHeDoesntHitYou but he plans trips for himself and bitches and moans about going on a family vacation. When you finally do he acts annoyed, ruining everyone’s time. He leaves as soon as you get home leaving you to unpack and get the children settled.
#MaybeHeDoesntHitYou but he stops for coffee when you’re in labor and on the way to the hospital.
#MaybeHeDoesntHitYou but he lies about everything, ignores you, and storms out for days if you ever confront him.
#MaybeHeDoesntHitYou but you have to cover for him and make excuses for his behavior which is very isolating
#MaybeHeDoesntHitYou but he says he doesn’t have friends because of you, even though you have friends.
#MaybeHeDoesntHitYou but insults every meal you cook even though he eats it and go backs for seconds and eats ALL the leftovers.
#MaybeHeDoesntHitYou but he refuses to make plans as a family or on a date with you and gets mad if you go out as a family without him or make plans with friends, leaving you without options.
#MaybeHeDoesntHitYou but he put a pocket knife under his pillow and when you find it, he says it must have fallen out of his pocket. It wasn’t his, it was yours from a sales rep at a previous job and you know it’s a threat but it’s pointless to bring it up, so you live in fear.
#MaybeHeDoesntHitYou but he cheats and you catch him, so then he steals family heirlooms from you to punish you.
Those are just a few but it felt good to get them out of my mind.