You pay an attorney Big Bucks to protect you and most importantly, protect your children. Forced mediation. Scared not to agree on some type of plan in mediation because a trial cost $$$$ and no promises can be made. So you mediate and agree on parenting plans, financial plans, etc. You’ve been screwed again but at least this plan is moderately fair. Then a month goes by and you realize you spent more money on this than your car is worth and all you’ve done is have words put on paper that are being ignored. You can fight if if you want to, because this agreement was sworn in I front of a judge, but that costs money and how much money is it going to take to make him pay me what he promised? My guess is I’d pay more money to get us there and he’d figure out some way to get everything reduced in his favor. I’d be out of more money and he’d win again.
I’d call my attorney for advice but I don’t want to pay for calling her. I certainly don’t want to pay to email her, and I’m not paying her to go back to court. She a good attorney but she can’t change the way it works. It is what it is. She will however make promises she can’t keep. I mean, we’re all salesmen(women) aren’t we? It all about the sale, everywhere for everything.
Family court needs major changes. Mental health issues need to be addressed and understood. The rule of thumb is to rush the process by forcing the heartbroken, abused, depressed, scared parent to make life changing decisions in short amounts of time. If you don’t, the judge will decide because, ma’am I gave you an extra month to get all of this decided. No problem, I’ve been crying all night and not sleeping, afraid and alone, raising children and acting normal during the day, when inside I’m exhausted and broken…sure I’m prepared to make huge decisions RIGHT NOW. I’m sure I’m thinking clearly. I’m amazed at how well I did back then. How do they not care what fresh hell we’re living in?
Mental Health, people! It is the biggest problem and the most ignored, most shunned. Think about the biggest tragedies you know of. Ignored mental health was the problem wasn’t it? No problem, therapists are starting not to carry your insurance. They’re thought of the same way plastic surgery is. A luxury, not a nessesity.
Abusers are winning and the abused are made to feel like they are he ones not worthy once again. Our kids are suffering and no one forces the noncustodial parent to pay the support he’s suppose to pay. This forces the custodial parent to work more, giving the kids less time with the parent they rely on. This leaves them feeling unloved even more than the seperation did. They lose again.
No worries, these abusers, cheaters, sex addicts still have extra money to pay their hookers. Whew, I’m so thankful the court was so concerned. Hookers could be on the street if they didn’t.
Sarcasm, my best friend 🙄
And that is my reality.