It seems I have a lot to say lately. Maybe I’m just working out some things. After my ex husband just text me an entire page of bullshit, I stopped and thought, men who are out of marriages or bad relationships have it much easier than women (most of the time and this is just my perspective). Men who say they are hurt, wounded, treated their ex-wife wrong and they have to live with that the rest of their poor pitiful life, have women falling all over them to help or to fix them. What do most men do (that aren’t total narcissist and see it as an opportunity or that 1 in a million guy that barely exists) when they meet a women with emotional baggage. They say they had a good time with you and basically run, never to be heard from again. They can’t handle that, why would they want to. There are plenty of fish in the sea. I’m not talking about my current situation. I haven’t put myself out there enough to know about me, but I do know how some of my life long guy friends act. This is it. They run. Now there are few exceptions where they don’t run, because the girl is hot enough to stick it out long enough to get laid and even the very few exceptions where they want more and it leads to another and another until they are in, emotional baggage and all. This isn’t how it started though. They considered running.
Women on the other hand see this wounded little puppy dog of a man and run to them. Attach to them. He needs me, is what they think and they’re in. They’re committed. They can’t leave this sweet, sweet, sad and lonely broken soul that just needs to be loved and cared for. He didn’t mean to repeatedly cheat and abuse that bitch of ex-wife. She was just not right for him. She made him do it with her evil ways. I must hug him and kiss him and love him and call him George kind of bullshit love. Vomit. These men will just jump in because love is just a thing and this one is just as good as the last. A fine replacement. Happily ever after. The end.
Women have to do more. Be a freaking side show act to get attention and keep it if they’re hot enough for the baggage to be overlooked long enough for the first lay, and if that’s good enough to stick around for another. The only other way is to not be interested, or to act like you’re not, after the first incounter…then the chase is on. So a side show act or a cat and mouse game. Take your pick.
I’ll be more than happy to be wrong about this and admit it one day. I just don’t see that day coming. Looks like I need to work on my flexibility or increase my running speed 🙄(mega eye roll).